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Hehe, maybe I finally have to take the test =) I've seen it every here and there, but I've never taken the test myself. I've got a heap of assorted things to be done this weekend, but when time allows I'll try to do to test and to write a new blog entry about my thoughts on it.

For today, just a quick note. Personally, I don't remember a single moment in my life that I would have felt that I'm somehow wrong because I'm not normal. Oh, no. Since early childhood I always felt that the normal is broken and not desirable. So I haven't been concerned if I'm like the others or not. I just started with a situation which clearly doesn't work, and I've been trying to find something which would work. Knowing that the quest will most likely take me to places which aren't normal in the sense of being shared with the majority of people.

I think this sometimes causes a lot of unnecessary misunderstandings - when I talk about some of my own stuff, the other people sometimes seem to assume that I disapprove myself for not being normal, and that the remedy would be just to accept myself and to think that there is nothing wrong in being slightly different. And then I'm like "where did that come from? what are these people talking about? that doesn't relate to anything I said." - but then I realize that this is just the normal, the typical way of feeling. And that's why people easily assume that I feel the same.

Hehe, but this being said - I find it perfectly understandable and acceptable if some other people have had insecure feelings about not-being-like-the-others. In a way, for a herd animal like us humans, it is rather natural to feel that way. And in that case, indeed, the remedy often is to find stuff which helps one to feel that there are more alike people out there - it just that they are sometimes hard to find, if the crowd is noisy and the different ones keep away from the crowds =)

And, in any case, it seldom hurts to find psychological insights and ideas which help to make sense of ones own inner world.

Finally, more jokingly: I've always felt that psychological personality tests are a lot like those astrological personality readings. Interesting, entertaining, sometimes surprisingly accurate, sometimes providing good insights, but after all somehow naive and not very well scientifically grounded. Moreover, reading against the western tradition of astrology, I'm Gemini, and I'm the stereotypical Gemini personality. In some occasions I can be terribly shy and introvert, and the second after that people see me leaping around and expressing myself with shameless extrovert joy. I'm rather happy with my little, uneventful hermit life in the woods, and at the same time I feel my life being full of phantasy and adventures. I'm never "this" nor "that", but always "this/that at the same time". So that's why I'm cautious towards psychological personality tests - my star sign is Gemini and it says that my personality will never fit into a single description =)

EDIT: Ps. Just for the sake of clarity: In this comment, the part "I think this sometimes causes a lot of unnecessary misunderstandings..." doesn't refer to Paulo's comment. Although I'm replying to Paulo's, I'm just letting out this feeling I've often encountered elsewhere. Paulo's comment is different; he honestly describes the way he has experienced his own things, and doesn't make strong assumptions about my personal stuff. And that's the way of communication I pretty much like. We can all talk, and talk about ourselves, in such a way that it doesn't prevent us from listening to others. As, talking without listening is useless, and actual communication takes place only when we talk and listen, listen and talk. (the way I see it, making a lot of quick and strong assumptions about others is an obstacle to real listening)

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